The strength and gifts that come from God’s caring and praying community cannot be appreciated enough. Support groups, like this one, and prayer chains have been popular through the ages because they work!
Ladies, I cannot imagine life without my friends and family supporting me during my season before and after Clay. People that knew my anxieties, my likes and my dislikes, my pain and my needs were not just casual friendships. These were friends that would sometimes just sit with me and not say a word.
Casual friendships seem to just happen but deep, boundless friendships are built. People need people.
Proverbs 27:9, “The heartfelt counsel of a friend is as sweet as perfume and incense.”
God desires that we have close, intimate friends. Look at David and Jonathan, the friendship between Shadrach, Meshach and Abed-Nego and even Jesus had not only 12 disciples as friends, but Peter, James and John were particularly close with Him.
Since you and I were given the task of raising a special needs child, we need the support of other women even more so. In my book, Special Kids Chosen Moms, I tell mothers that they need to choose an active role in establishing and maintaining friendships. Make sure you have friends that are grounded on godly principles. A friend that shares the same level of commitment to following Christ is so very important.
Proverbs 12:26, “The godly give good advice to their friends; the wicked lead them astray.”
However, don’t just look for someone because of low self-worth or low self-esteem … that is where we look to Christ for our value. No person can meet all the needs in your life, but Jesus can!
Start by going to your church and talking to your pastor. Women’s ministries are a wonderful way to get to know other women and perhaps there is another mother who is walking this road too.
Proverbs 17:17, “A friend is always loyal, and a brother is born to help in time of need.”
When someone calls you are you “unloading” a lot of baggage on them? Has your spirit turned into a Debbie Downer? Remember to share a kind word and perhaps a triumphant moment in your day with your child. Find out how your friend is doing and try not to turn the conversation into a ‘can you top this’ moment. Keep in mind there is nothing biblical or God-honoring about venting our frustrations just for pity’s sake. Remain humble and purposeful as you share with your friend and ask for prayer right then and there and never forget that God is our first choice when we need to unload our burdens.
Side note: My apologies to Debbie’s everywhere and right now my book is available FREE on Amazon KindleUnlimited! Yay!!!