Have you ever wondered, ‘how did I end up here? Are my child’s special issues because I ….. or because I didn’t …. ?”
You don’t have to have a special needs child to have mom-guilt, but mothers of children with disabilities take on far more guilt than other parents. Questions begin to surface even before the initial diagnosis from the doctor.
Or perhaps your “friends” question you and ask you if you’ve tried the gluten free, dairy free, meat free diet…or perhaps did you bottle-feed rather than breast feed?
No matter how much or how little we do for our children, we all feel a tinge of guilt at some time or other. So… with that said … you’re normal.
Comparing yourself to other mothers (even with mothers of disabled kids just like yours) can be so destructive and give you a sad heart and flat out guilt. And unfortunately you are always going to hear conflicting advice on what you are doing or not doing.
The Family Education website says, “Guilt is like ivy, once it begins climbing up a tree, its little sucker roots dig in tightly, its strands tightly cling and it won’t relinquish its hold. It’s hard to let go of guilt, because guilt won’t let go of you.”
1 Peter 5:7, “Casting all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you.”
It’s time to replace the guilt with proper thinking. There is no going back, right? Don’t relive the same thing over and over. Lay your burdens at His feet and confess anything that is dark in your heart. Satan loves the fact that you are reliving anything we are not proud of .
GOD LOVES YOU! He wants us to live in freedom!
1 John 1:9,
“If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”
If you have been dragging a boat-load of guilt around, I pray you will confess them to God and move on. God wants us to live the best live we can and to stay focused on Him.
I love the verse in Micah that says, “Once again you will have compassion on us. You will trample our sins under your feet and throw them into the depths of the ocean!” (Micah 7:19)
We can be free!
Concentrate on what God is doing in the present and move on from the past.