We cannot escape. Technology has exploded and now we are bombarded with the news on our TV’s, laptops, iPads, and smart phones. And most of it is terrible, horrible, no-good, very bad news.
As a parent of a special needs child it is up to you to be sure you filter what your child hears. Talking to your child about the recent trend in suicides is definitely not easy, but if your child has the capacity to understand death then we need to be immersed in His Word to be prepared for a heart to heart talk.
“Where do I start?” Well, dang. I’m not a child psychologist but start by being open and honest and use language that is age (mentally and physically) appropriate. It may seem easier to think of another explanation rather than trying to explain how someone was in such a dark place that they chose death over life, however, social media, conversations overheard and other children who have listened to the media can cause your child to withdraw and be fearful.
We need wisdom. Nope, not intelligence, not book smarts or common sense, but the kind of wisdom that only comes from God. The kind of wisdom I’m talking about is a type of divine perception and letting the Holy Spirit give you His wisdom and discernment.
James 1:5, “If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him. But when he asks, he must believe and not doubt, because he who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind.”
Today’s culture teaches us to look at things from a worldly perspective rather than God’s point of view. Proverbs 1:23 says, “Come and listen to my counsel and I’ll share my heart with you and make you wise.”
Ok. We’ve started by first going to God and asking for divine wisdom and direction. (I’m under the assumption that you have a regular appointment with God and don’t use Him like a magical genie).
Second, tell your special one that we belong to God; we are His. Ending a life that belongs to Him is not an option. You might want to read Psalm 139:13-16 to remind them they are a precious child of God. 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 tells us that our body is the temple of the Holy Spirit and that we should honor God with our body.
Third, remind them that there is no sin that is too great for God to forgive. Isaiah 43:25 says, “I, even I, am He who blots out your transgressions, for my own sake and remembers your sins no more.”
And lastly, let your little child know that when we are scared we run to God. His presence is guaranteed and even in the most terrifying and darkest hour He is near and will never leave us. Psalm 139 reminds us that there is no place we can go that God is not there. How comforting is that? THAT is the comfort that we have to explain to our children. God is with us. God loves us.
Stay in the Word, parents. Don’t assume that your ways are smarter or wiser than God’s ways. Our children expect their world to be consistent and discussing His Word is a great way to keep that consistency!
Turn off the news.
Refrain from discussing the terrible, horrible, no-good, very bad news in front of your children. You may not know all your child comprehends, so it is best to keep your conversations light and uplifting. In the event your child does find out about the latest death or suicide…. “always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have.” (1 Peter 3:15).
Again, I’m not an expert in this field, but you can always speak to your pastor in regards to counseling and advice on death and suicides. My prayer is that you can communicate the love of the Father to your child as long as you have breath in your body! God bless!!